I would like to think that we all are pre-drawn, mapped-out entities. For that to be true, it would treat understanding people and knowing yourself like studying for a history test. You congregate your inventory of facts from all the research and reading you’ve done on the subject and, the more you examine, the better you retain the information and the more you know. But people are not blueprints, they are relentlessly in flux, changing their minds, their preferences, their haircuts, their accents, and this makes it unfeasible to ever know someone. I used to be discouraged by that but I think that is how we can show that we love each other, by showing that you’re ready to pay enough attention and time to find out who that person is today and the next day and the day after that.